I haven’t figured this one out yet. Like I have said in a previous post, I have a bad habit of replaying negative conversations in my head. I’m currently reading a book on how to control the deluge of negative thoughts that fill my head, but no progress yet.
For now, if it is an option that is available at the time the negative feeling is arising, I promptly lay in bed and try to fall asleep. Very avoidant behavior, but sometimes, it helps. I may wake up feeling better, or worse, But at least, I got a nap out of it.
For a Christian, I really suck at going to God immediately, before worrying and all of that. I am trying and trusting that I will get better at it, but at this my big age, new habits do not come easy. I have found that listening to Christian music, especially hymns, do a great job at calming my spirit whenever I feel very troubled.
All of the above ‘strategies’, I usually reserve for ‘big’ feelings. For smaller negative feelings, I am blessed with selective amnesia to ignore and forget peripheral inconveniences. I might fuss in the moment, but best believe that once I look away, I’m done.
Other strategies in no particular order –
- Ranting and making a big fuss until someone tells me sorry.
- Food – I used to eat my feelings but I rarely do that anymore since my big back was getting even bigger.
- Crying – when the tears do manage to come, crying can be quite therapeutic.
I’m sure there are some other strategies that I have, but these are the ones that top of mind for me as I write this.
In another world, I would have ended this by asking y’all to share your strategies with me but, I have finally come to the age where I have stopped asking for advice that I won’t use.
Bye!
Chioma.
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